Conversational Disclaimer

People speak with such certainty about a matter that involves multiple motives and consequences. Is it really so simple that they can draw definite conclusions and never question them?

Anxieties and emotions are high, but in their frustration, people resort to poisonous and hateful rhetoric to express their opinions. More forceful words don't always make a stronger case.

In the last few days, I've been in a few distressing discussions for and against war. They weren't distressing because of the subject matter, but because I felt bullied. I wish I could hand out a conversational disclaimer beforehand, to help manage expectations.

"Feel free to passionately express your views. I'll listen wholeheartedly and respect your right to your opinions. But please understand that I'm not here to argue with you or be lectured by you or rally around your cause. If I ask a question, it doesn't mean I'm your enemy or that I disagree. I'm simply here to engage your ideas and hear your thoughts."